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“In every block of marble i see a statue as plain as though it stood before me shaped and perfect in attitude and action. i only have to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it.” Michelangelo

Sculpting a masterpiece doesn’t happen overnight – it’s a process that requires time and careful work. The same is true for imperfect progress. God is chiseling us, making us new – and that requires time, careful work and a great deal of grace. ~ Lysa Terkeurst


i adore books. 

i am sure books is the 6th unwritten love language.  when i love someone, i give them a book.  when i am loved, i am given a book.  okay, so perhaps its a combo of gifts and words of affirmation…

but i sure love books.

and my husband loves books.  we are a book family.

we had to laugh though when we married and married our books together, filling a huge bookcase.

my books were all about revival and old dead guys who lived it.

tony had books about marriage and kids.

yes seriously.

for a long time the books i added were about leadership and evangelism, but over the past year i’ve added a bunch of really great marriage books to the case.  i must be maturing…


Some recommendations:

What Did You Expect? Paul Tripp

For Women Only / For Men OnlyShaunti Feldhahn

Sacred Marriage – Gary Thomas

Laugh Your Way To A Better Marriage – Mark Gungor


Other recommendations: aka books i love!

PursuedJud Wilhite

Leading and Loving it by Lori Wilhite and Brandi Wilson

Kings Cross – Tim Keller

Sun Stand Still – Steven Furtick

Death by Love – Mark Driscoll

Unglued – Lysa TerKeurst 

Undaunted – Christine Caine



our bookcase is at capacity.  our hallway bookcase is overflowing.  i confess i covet those inbuilt floor to ceiling bookcases… sigh… that would make my heart happy…  i find our bookcase is also the central place for photos, keys, pens, rings, craft things, screwdrivers… its the whatever place… there are times i wish it was more organised (aka less cluttered) but it really is a snapshot of who we are and our heart…


What books do you love?

ps oh i wish that was my bookcase above….!

Jesus has never ever asked for us to be perfect. He simply wants us perfectly surrendered. I often pray, “Oh Jesus… I am such a mess but I am Yours. Show me… help me… forgive me… reassure me… and pour your tender mercy upon me.”

And He does. And He always will. My imperfections are safely tucked within the reality of His perfection.

~ Lysa Terkeurst

**** love love love YOU’RE ALREADY AMAZING by Holley Gerth… the chapter on “what’s your emotional style” so clicked with me… i dont know whether it was a fashion/shopping thing or the fact that as a mums group (and the women from our young adults housegroup) we’ve been going through UNGLUED by lysa terkeurst so i’m more hyper aware of ways to articulate emotionals and emotional transformations… nothing says it better than an extreme makeover!


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we all have an emotional style…  a one of a kind, complex way of showing our hearts to the world.  imagine i pick you and a friend up and take you to your favourite shop.  as you walk through the door i say “surprise! i’m sending you on a shopping spree.  you both get to pick an outfit.  there’s only one rule – it has to reflect you.”  while you and your friend might have a lot in common, you’re most likely to get something entirely different.  maybe you’re a “jeans a t-shirt” kind of girl while she heads right over to the pumps and pearls.  even if you choose something similar you’ll probably pick out a different colour or size.  what if i took you to another store, but this time it was filled with emotional expressions instead of clothes?  the same thing would probably happen.  your friend might feel totally comfortable in bold yellow joy while you feel more at home in the laid back blue of peace.  there would be all kinds of reasons why you made your choices, ranging from where you grew up and what you were taught in church, to how your brain is wired.  God, the ultimate designer, has custom created an emotional wardrobe for you.  and its beautiful. ~ Holley Gerth // You’re Already Amazing page 60


each one of us thinks our normal is THE normal.  our way of life, responses, and yes, emotions make sense to us.  but ultimately, our reality has to be tested against God’s ways of doing things. ~ Holley Gerth // You’re Already Amazing page 65


it may be just that once made sense no longer works now.  its time for a new emotional fitting!  you may have responses in your emotional closet you “outgrew” years ago.  ~ Holley Gerth // You’re Already Amazing page 67


its one of the great mysteries of womanhood that we all have moments when we stand in our closet, look at our clothes, and still think “i’ve got nothing to wear”.  and i’ve got a confession: its bee one of those weeks for me emotionally.  when that happens, its time for an emotional style check. ~ Holley Gerth // You’re Already Amazing page 70


Thankfully God’s promises give us something better to wear. ~ Holley Gerth // You’re Already Amazing page 72


what’s one emotional style you’ve learned from your upbringing that you want to keep?

what’s one you’ve outgrown and need to replace with God’s way of doing things instead?




"sometimes we girls think if we don’t make instant progress, then real change isn’t coming. but that’s not so. there is a beautiful reality called imperfect progress. the day i realized the glorious hope of this kind of imperfect change is the day i gave myself permission to believe i really could be different!" ~ lysa terkerust / unglued



*** i couldn’t help it… its been a LOST kind of day today… i love LOST



*** our mums group are working through the UNGLUED series by Lysa TerKeurst and wow is it fantastic… challenging, life changing, encouraging…


in week #4 we looked at 5 steps to work through in an unglued moment – in the moment where ALARMED, i RESOLVE (2 Chronicles 20) and i choose to be on God’s side and to do His will His way.


here are the 5 steps to help me remain emotionally more anchored in God…

Between the panic that begins Jehoshaphat’s story and the peace that ends it, the king’s actions provide a compelling framework for bringing our own unglued reactions to a peaceful end:

  1. Remember who you are (2 Chronicles 20:2-4)
  2. Redirect your focus to Jesus (2 Chronicles 20:12b-13)
  3. Recognize God’s job isn’t your job (2 Chronicles 20:14-17)
  4. Recite praises and thanks to God (2 Chronicles 20:18-22)
  5. Realize that reactions determine reach (2 Chronicles 20:23-30)


today: i had no light therapy because i got burned at wednesday’s session.  so feeling a bit sore and fragile.

want to be: healed. whole. strong.  faith filled.  faithful.

blessings: my lovely Leading and Loving it community group meets today online.  these woman fill my heart and spirit with joy and strength.  and today i am leading it!  scary/exciting.  our usual wonderful leader liz has had something pop up, so she asked me to host :o) fingers crossed aka praying the technology side goes well!  i do so love these women and what God is doing!

thinking: about growth, change, transformation.

planning: a holiday!

writing: my message on jonah for 14th April Sunday AM, and a housegroup message on leadership

listening to: just discovered WORSHIP CENTRAL so being spotifying them a bit… loving GUNGOR… loving KIM WALKER SMITH… loving WILL REAGAN…

reading: unglued by lysa terkeurst

loving: my children.  my son turned 11 this week and is off to a super 14 rugby match tonight at eden park and my daughter got 3rd place in the school talent show last night dancing with some friends.  they fill my heart.

grateful: for grace, both human and divine


inspired by finding joy

* notes from the Leading and Loving It JustONE Virtual Conference this week






hold your head high and KEEP your head throughout moments of conflict


respond – don’t react!


exploders who shame others – add PAUSE – stop and think – attack the issue NOT the person.  Pause! And let the Holy Spirit intervene! 

Proverbs 10:19 – In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise.


exploder who shames themselves – add PERSPECTIVE – ask myself this question – in this moment – if this is the worst thing that happens to me today is this, then its still a pretty good day eh?

proverbs 12:16 -A fool’s wrath is known at once, But a prudent man covers shame.


stuffer who builds barriers – establish BOUNDARIES – stuffers shuts down the relationship and the potential of the relationship – stuffing things down and suppressing them instead of dealing with the issues, avoiding conflict, dishonesty “i’m fine”

proverbs 10:18-21 Whoever hides hatred has lying lips, And whoever spreads slander is a fool.  In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise. The tongue of the righteous is choice silver; The heart of the wicked is worth little. The lips of the righteous feed many, But fools die for lack of wisdom.


stuffer who collects retaliation rocks – swallowing down proof and evidence that eventually will be used later, reverse of an oyster making a pearl but making a rock of retaliation – becoming an exploder – keep the peace in the moment but collecting proof that will come back to damage relationships – are you trying to be right or improve the relationship

proverbs 10:14 Wise people store up knowledge, But the mouth of the foolish is near destruction.


but there are also redeeming qualities:



find the balance and soul integrity


choose today to have one better reaction – change the course of emotional reaction

you CAN change


Repeat these truths with me today…
– Jesus has made me a kind-hearted person full of encouragement and ready to inspire any person who gets within 10 feet of me.
– Jesus has made me smart enough to know I need Him- desperately and fully.
– Jesus has assigned all of us the important job of representing Him to this world- which means we represent Him everywhere we go.

~ Lysa TerKeurst

repeating, esp as i epic failed at #1 and #3 today… which makes me remember and appreciate and live out #2


today: both kids have friends round, so its both a little quieter and a little noisier… you know how it is…

want to be: living out the things i am reading – in the Word of God and in the books inspired by Him (see below!)

blessings: school stationary arrived today!

listening to: loving citipointe live… every time one of their songs comes on my playlist i’m like “i so love this song”!  wanting to get the new jesus culture and new kim walker-smith and new elevation church worship albums.  saving my christmas vouchers!

planning: the year ahead – love that spark of january planning new things and continuance of things.  for the first term i am having phototherapy which throws out my usual schedule and involvement so am trying to find solutions to schedule challenges… looking ahead at planning the first 6 months of housegroup too, have a few series on the burn – WHAT WE BELEIVE (doctrine), LEADERSHIP PRINCIPALS, and LIFE AP (continuing from last year) as three main revolving components.

writing: my message for sunday morning church 27th january

loving: jesus and His magnificent grace

grateful: for the opportunities before me and the work of God to me and within in

reading: i’m reading about 4 books at once – all for different purposes!
for my own heart i am reading Undaunted by Christine Caine and Greater by Steven Furtick – both totally about the call of God and faith (so my heartbeat)
for housegroup research i am reading Doctrine by Mark Driscoll and Foundations of Christian Doctrine by Kevin Conner – we’re doing a series this year each month on WHAT WE BELIEVE
for relationships and our mums group i’ve just finished and will re-read Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst – challenging practical life application book on relationships and emotions and stress and managing life… soooo good!

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