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Costumes of the 1960's Batman TV series starring Adam West

I’ve always loved batman.  the old Adam West batman, not the ripped darkness of Ben Affleck or Christian Bale.

One thing that always intrigued me, apart from those gloves, was his bat belt, his utility belt, packed full of tools for any occasion, any emergency, any situation.

batarang’s, Grapple gun, Smoke pellets, Concussion mines, Sonic devastator – you name it.  its in there.

Batman was prepared.

the bat belt even has its own wikipedia page!


But it reminds me that as a dreamer i need to tool up.  I need to strap on my own utility belt.

I need to have tools at my fingertips that are keeping me accountable, that help me step forward, that are inspiring me.

And I need to keep on collecting tools, up skilling, growing.

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**** preaching notes from preaching last night at The River


Confession time. So I did this crazy thing on Monday. I drove past a woman hitching on Avimore, and felt God say, with a bit of a woosh in my heart, turn round and pick her up.

Um no God, I don’t do hitch-hikers. I’m a woman. I’m 5 foot one. I don’t know jiu-jitsu.

Pick her up.

So, I swung around, u-turned and picked her up.

Turned out she was heading only about 5 minutes away and while I had only intended to take her to the end of avimore… I took her to where she was going.

We chatted on the way, as one does.

She was like “I cant believe you stopped” and I was like on the inside “I cant believe I stopped”

But I knew why I had.

“I’m a Christian, I believe God is real and he loves you, and you know, I really felt from God to turn around and pick you up and help you out. Weird eh, but He cares about those things.”

“That’s cool. I cant believe you picked me up!”

It wasn’t a huge conversation. We drove for only about 5 minutes, I dropped her off. But I know that God was using that moment to speak to this young woman. If anything, she knows that He saw and cared.

All the time God is speaking. To me, to you.
He wants to speak TO you and THROUGH you.

God has a history of speaking to us THROUGH people.

He reveals Himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. People. Not just heroes or giants of the faith but real flesh and blood people. People who were husbands, fathers, friends, neighbours, workers, employers. Today He speaks through people.

“Embedded in the larger story of redemption is a principle we must not miss: God uses ordinary people to do extraordinary things in the lives of others.”

He is the God of Peter, of Oliver, of Jennifer, of Claire. And people learn about God and see Him THROUGH people like you and me.

We live in a world where there are so many voices coming at us from every direction. Even our own voice doesn’t stop. Everything and everyone competes for our attention and ear space. But not everything speaking is good. There are voices with an agenda to kill, steal and destroy. And the only one that speaks perfectly is God. So how do we hear His voice more clearly?

It’s important in this sea of voices to hear clearly from God.
It’s important to hear HIS heart and His guidance.
God’s Words will change your future. God’s Words will change a nation. God’s Words will define our life. God’s Words will define our marriage, our children, our identity, our dreams, our destiny. We need to hear His voice.

God’s voice is powerful. In the beginning God SPOKE and there was light. God said and creation was created. And His words still carry power. The disciples said “You have the words that give eternal life.”



God is speaking. Are we listening? Is His voice the loudest?
In a world of noise how do we hear His voice with a greater clarity?


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We’ve all seen a thousand action-movie scenes that play out the same way: Two guys are locked in an intense battle. As the music drives toward the crescendo, the wrestling match nears a precipice. The good guy shows that he’s been establishing his victory all along. In a dramatic moment, he switches all his energy from fighting the other’s attack to leveraging it. The bad guy’s force becomes the very thing that flings him to his doom.

As parents, there are times when we feel like we’re in a similar wrestling match with our kids. The only problem is, we shouldn’t be—and we know it (Eph. 6:12). We must remember that the battle already took place. The attack Satan mounted to crush God is the very action God leveraged to seal Satan’s doom. As Christian parents, we have the great joy of a victory already secured at the cross.








Work/Life balance isn’t about balance. (and other things Chronobiology teaches us about life) – Tyler Ward

Let’s face it, work/life balance is elusive. And to apprehend it isn’t as easy as putting the different pieces of your life on a scale and trimming where necessary.

That’s because work/life balance, and all of it’s assumed benefits, isn’t actually about balance. It’s about rhythm. And the natural rhythm of our life is something we, of the 21st century, traded away a long time ago.

1. Manage energy, not time.

It’s what chronobiology calls “Ultradian cycles,” or the patterns of life shorter than 24 hours. Examples of these cycles would be the 90-minute REM cycle, the 4-hour nasal cycle, or the 3-hour pattern of growth hormone production.

However, perhaps the more helpful reality we get from these cycles is what Leo Widrich crystalizes in his recent article, “The Origin of the 8 Hour Workday…” when he says,

The basic understanding is that our human minds can focus on any given task for 90-120 minutes. Afterwards, a 20-30 minute break is required for us to get the renewal to achieve high performance for our next task again.

This understanding of our brain’s natural rhythm challenges the validity of our 8-hr-straight work days with the absence of methodical breaks, as well as our propensity to manage our clocks, rather than our mental energy.






6 Mentors Who Can Help You Grow Spiritually

God doesn’t want us to live in isolation. I realized many years ago that I desperately need people in my life in order to fulfill my purpose. My parents invested in me, and so did teachers, coaches, employers, pastors, role models and good friends. I am not self-made, and neither are you. Any success we have achieved is the result of someone taking time to instruct, encourage or correct us. That’s humbling!


I’ve found six types of mentors who have helped me in my spiritual journey:

1. Distant mentors.

2. Occasional mentors.

3. Supportive friends.

4. Negative mentors.

5. Reverse mentors.

6. Spiritual fathers and mothers.






Seven Principles for Setting Goals that Work – Michael Hyatt

How do you make change happen? More than that, how do you make the right change happen? When there is a gap between what is and what you want to be, how do you cross that gap?



last night we celebrated the first engagement of someone from our housegroup.  they’re an awesome young couple, full of love and promise.  its been a joy walking with them through their journey – from meeting, and liking, to dating and becoming engaged.  we count it such a privilege to mentor them, and a few other couples and it helps tony and i fall in love more and also work our own lives out. 


mentoring reminds me :

to understand and to communicate to be understood

to believe the best of intentions and motives.

that its okay to ask for help and clarification

to be my real self, whatever that looks like

that we all need big people, who see life from further down over the page, who will share their wisdom learned and lived

that love and life is intentional

happiness and joy is a choice

that we are all in a journey of learning, editing and mastering (thanks jon acuff / Start)

that relationships are beautiful and difficult and worth, so worth fighting for.

and that love is a gift we give and a gift we receive.


mentoring young couples, and young people, is one of the greatest joys of what we do.

it involves

: a lot of listening and translating, getting people to say what they really mean and feel.

: a lot of praying, there and then and during the in between times

: a lot of reading and learning, reading wide so that we can help people go deep

: regular consistent communication and connection



“When a young person, even a gifted one, grows up without proximate living examples of what she may aspire to become–whether lawyer, scientist, artist, or leader in any realm–her goal remains abstract. Such models as appear in books or on the news, however inspiring or revered, are ultimately too remote to be real, let alone influential. But a role model in the flesh provides more than inspiration; his or her very existence is confirmation of possibilities one may have every reason to doubt, saying, ‘Yes, someone like me can do this.” ― Sonia Sotomayor


*** i’m passionate about teamwork, leadership and mentoring and that is one of the reasons i’m stoked to be on the SAS team this year @ The River – its about seeing lives change and people in real world situations having to work together, using their God given gifts, using their God given differences, for a common purpose.   Brad Lomenick’s post today was so timely, a beautiful reminder, at the beginning of this new adventure as we’re jumping into a lot of team building and practical team experience.  Teams work. 


Reality is, we are all part of some kind of team, wherever we are in life. Family, church, volunteer, sports, business, community, social. As Leaders, it’s equally important for us to know how to follow and be a great team member as it is how to LEAD and be a team leader. In fact, many believe to be a good leader, you must first be a great teammate. And I would suggest that great leaders are equally in tune with how best to be a teammate, along with how to lead well.

So here are a few thoughts on being a great team member:

1. Good teammates are great finishers. They get the job done. They take projects across the finish line.

2. Good teammates anticipate. They understand what needs to be done next before others, and are always looking for ways to make the process better.

3. Good teammates criticize their leader in private, and praise in public. Enough said on that.

4. Good teammates are trustworthy. When given an assignment, a leader can be assured that it will get done. This is incredibly important.



go read the next 4 great team attributes HERE on Brad Lomenick’s blog



and what would you add to the list?

mentoring monday


  • What keeps you up at night? This one is a familiar question for most leaders. What makes you cry? What makes you mad? What are the things that nag at you? This question has to do with what you are passionate about.


  • What gets you up in the morning? This one is less familiar to most of us, but probably even more important. What keeps you and your team committed? Engaged and excited? This question has more to do with purpose.


  • Don’t settle for just going through life enduring the five days of the workweek, to only have as your greatest goal of the week to make it to the weekend. Love what you do, or at least like it. It’s too important not to.  Are you loving what you’re doing?


  • As believers, as followers of Jesus, if we’re not chasing after something that is so much bigger than we are, and there’s no way we could ever accomplish it without God, then we are playing it too safe.  What is your God sized goal?

// from Brad Loemick

l5536434_thumb1  Graham Henry – my favourite All Blacks coach



a coach helps others win by helping them to discover the knowledge, strategies, action plans, inspiration and accountability they need to excel and reach even greater levels of success. 


help teammates to identify gaps in their businesses and personal lives

recognise and affirm the gifts of teammates

discover their teammates convictions and encourage them to create a vision consistent with those convictions

assist with creating plans necessary for further levels of success

keep teammates focused, passionate and on track in regard to their plans

pinpoint and assess their team’s resources

provide the fresh perspective their teammates may need to complete their goals and actions

hold teammates accountable to their commitments



as a coach we help to:

make sure they have defined their reality, to stop, think and truly asses their current situation

clarify their vision and define their goals, most people constantly react to events, people and things… and therefore are not driven by purpose

understand and address roadblocks to their vision, we are most blinded to the things that are most comfortable or familiar to us

test their thinking, opinions, and conclusions, we easily get caught up in insanity, “doing the same things over and over, but expecting different results”

establish accountability, too often people fall short by confusing intent with action




This is next level WHO we’re about to get into. (That kind of rhymed.)

Someone has already done what you are trying to do. Someone went before you and fell in some potholes. They know where the road is dangerous, they know where the wins are, they know the way to the finish line.

Find those people and learn from them.

There are no shortcuts to success but relationships come pretty close. Learning what worked (and didn’t) from someone else can be a huge help for you.

Here’s 3 ways to do it:

1.    Read books by people who have done it. Sometimes even something simple like this helps.
2.    Interview your circle of friends. I guarantee at least one person has done something similar.
3.    Post a request for help in our Facebook group. That group is full of amazing hustlers. I promise someone can help you.

This is WHO round 2. (Sometimes I rhyme slow, sometimes I rhyme quick.)

jon acuff


Having big people in our life is essential, i think.

a big person could be a mentor, your parents, your pastor / leader, someone ahead a few pages in life than you.

its someone with a bit of wisdom and credibility that you can bounce ideas off and can help you forge a strategy forward.

someone that has been there, done that, got the tshirt.


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10 Secrets You Should Know About Marriage

There are few people who really know what they’re getting into when it comes to getting married. We all have an idea of what marriage is all about. We have hopes, dreams and expectations of what it will look like. We watch movies, TV shows and even observe marriages in the world around us to try and get a glimpse of this thing we call holy matrimony. But we don’t really know until we’re there, do we?

1. Marriage is more intimate than sex

2. Marriage reveals selfishness, but can also cultivate selflessness

3. Oneness literally means one
4. At some point, you will be disappointed
5. Like it or not, you will learn the meaning of forgiveness
6. Marriage will cost you
7. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a series of decisions
8. Marriage will require you to learn how to communicate
9. Marriage is not the end of your destination.
10. Marriage gives you a glimpse of so much more

There are many routes to holiness, and marriage is definitely one of those routes. I am a different person because of this sacred relationship, and I know God’s not finished with me yet. I’m so thankful for the blessing of marriage, and look forward to what lies ahead.




Supernatural Help by DREAM CULTURE

Success is knowing that GOD IS WITH ME. It is He who qualifies me, strengthens me, promotes me, causes me to increase. I still need to do what is in my hand, adjust my thoughts to line up with His thoughts, manage me; but it is God WITH ME that is my guarantee of success regardless of the circumstances (remember success to Jesus wasn’t avoiding death). With that truth as my anchor and foundation, I can navigate any storm. And the evidence of God with me is peace and rest. I must choose to enter His peace and rest, especially when I get my eyes on the circumstance or storm that surrounds me (or is just inside my head).

So what is your storm? What are the crazy thoughts that are trying to derail you on your journey to live the impossible? What is the core fear or lie behind that? Now what does God want to say to you?




Dear Kids: What You Need to Know About Duck Dynasty, Justine Sacco, and Christmas by A Holy Experience

Words leave your mouth, your keyboard, but words don’t ever expire quietly in a void — they always explode in hearts.

Every verb you utter causes a corresponding action, a movement, in every listener.

Measure your words — they determine the distance of your relationships.

Type up a Facebook status update — and it can be radioactive forever. Don’t be fooled by your keyboard: the Internet doesn’t have a delete button. Screenshots can make your words have a half life of eternity. Social media is exactly that — social. It impacts you socially for as long as you are a member of society.

One tweet can be the last tick in the bomb that detonates your life.

Speak slow. Off-the-cuff words too often slap.





Eliminate the fear of failing

Understand he or she may be afraid to ask

Give consistent, constructive, encouraging feedback

Tell them what they need to know, but don’t know to ask

Give them a seat at the table of influence






One of the things Jesus commissioned His followers to do is to not just make converts, but make disciples.

However, the church has seemed to take the word “discipleship” and made it out to be one of the most confusing, boring and irrelevant things we talk about.


mentoring monday

Hindsight can be a good thing, particularly when it gives us clarity or direction on how to approach things in the future. But at times it can also be a little painful, especially when you look back at a situation and think, “If only I’d known back then what I know now.”

How can we know in advance the lessons that only hindsight seems to teach us? I actually believe we can gain the kind of knowledge that sets us up to win, by accessing the wisdom of those who have walked the road before us. The Message version of the Bible tells us to: “Take the old prophets as your mentors. They put up with anything, went through everything, and never once quit, all the time honouring God.” (James 5:10)

Be a listener : “Listen now to my voice; I will give you counsel, and God will be with you… so Moses heeded the voice of his father-in-law and did all that he said.”(Exodus 18:19,24)

It’s one thing to listen but entirely different to heed the good advice we hear. To heed literally means to listen with a commitment to change. Moses not only listened to Jethro, but he applied his counsel to the situation and changed the way he managed those he was leading. It’s not about how many sermons we hear preached, or how many counseling sessions we go to; it’s what we do with what we hear that counts. To see the fruit of wisdom in our lives, we need to have the spirit of a listener.

for more keys on mentoring read the whole post here: The Blessing of Mentorship – Hillsong Pastor, Brian Houston

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