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Unless you’ve been living under a rock (or binge watching all 6 seasons of LOST) you would have heard of 13 Reasons Why. 13 Reasons Why has become the most watched series on Netflix of all time. That’s a whole lot of teens and peeps watching and talking about a show. The internet has been a buzz about whether or not teens should be watching this show. The show is raw and can be VERY TRIGGERING to teenager that struggles with any of the content matter, not to mention the mature nature of the show (language, bullying, sex, rape, and graphically shown suicide).

I haven’t said anything about it yet, because my laptop was broken and I need to type to think (vs you know, thumbs) but I’ve been reading and watching and thinking about it.

So what’s my thoughts on it all?

As a parent and youth pastor my heart hurts watching the show. For so many reasons. Firstly, I want you to know, whoever you are, that if you’re going through a hard time or a dark space and feel alone, you’re not. There are people who love you and care about you and want to try to help along the way. There is hope.

The show has so many “talking points” in it, things that I think are necessary to talk about (cyberbulling, sexual assult etc) – it shows things that I think are pretty realistic, albeit ugly, about high school life and the ins and outs of been a teen in today’s world. It shows us that little things, both good and bad can matter, and that what we say can really affect someone, again good and bad. Is that reason enough to watch it though?

BUT my heart hurt also because in some ways the show is deception dressed up in cool clothes.

My heart hurts because I am sure that there are people watching who identify with what is going on and then think that her way might be a viable option. Cool even.

My heart hurts because it gave no hope. No options. No tomorrows. The romanticizing of suicide and the total absence of intervention i.e. medical attention, professional counseling, etc., is what makes the series both dark and dangerous for those who are depressed, suicidal or have considered suicide as an option at some point in their life.

My heart hurt because I think the show has the potential to mess with people’s minds, hearts, emotions. Seriously.

I think this blogger said it well – “The message of “13 Reasons Why” is not one hope, optimism or reassurance, but of tragedy, grief and the urgent need for action. I think there’s plenty to be learned from the fictional but poignant story of Hannah Baker — especially for men and anyone unacquainted with the emotional and mental damage inflicted by casual misogyny and rape culture. However, for me, as a woman who has long battled depression and suicidal ideation, the show’s well-intentioned message about mental illness, bullying and sexism was not shocking but rather reaffirming of the dangerous ideals that have often left me feeling hopeless and alone. When I finished the show, I found myself drowning once again in toxic, dangerous thoughts.” https://themighty.com/…/should-i-watch-13-reasons-why-revi…/

If you’re a parent of a teenager then it’s a difficult view but could be informative. It’s a heads up of what can go on (from a negative bias of course).

But if you’re a teenager should you watch it…? I know all your friends will probably be raving about it. Have a strong think about it, a pray about it before doing it. But if you’re struggled with depression, anxiety, bullying, suicidal thoughts or mental illness I would suggest passing on this one. Because the show can trigger things in an unhelpful way. Make sense?

If you suffer from bullying, depression, suicidal thoughts – I beg you – talk to somebody immediately (a parent, sibling, grandparent, teacher, friend, youth pastor, coach, counselor). There is a God – and He loves you. You are awesome. You are beautiful. You matter. You are not alone. You are so very loved. You cannot be replaced. And help is available in abundance.

 Lifeline: 0800 543 354 (available 24/7)
 Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO) (available 24/7)
 Youthline: 0800 376 633
 Kidsline: 0800 543 754 (available 24/7)
 Whatsup: 0800 942 8787 (Monday – Friday, 1pm to 10pm, Saturday – Sunday, 3pm to 10pm)

https://nickwattssoulfood.com/…/netflixs-13-reasons-why-is…/

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