last night we celebrated the first engagement of someone from our housegroup.  they’re an awesome young couple, full of love and promise.  its been a joy walking with them through their journey – from meeting, and liking, to dating and becoming engaged.  we count it such a privilege to mentor them, and a few other couples and it helps tony and i fall in love more and also work our own lives out. 


mentoring reminds me :

to understand and to communicate to be understood

to believe the best of intentions and motives.

that its okay to ask for help and clarification

to be my real self, whatever that looks like

that we all need big people, who see life from further down over the page, who will share their wisdom learned and lived

that love and life is intentional

happiness and joy is a choice

that we are all in a journey of learning, editing and mastering (thanks jon acuff / Start)

that relationships are beautiful and difficult and worth, so worth fighting for.

and that love is a gift we give and a gift we receive.


mentoring young couples, and young people, is one of the greatest joys of what we do.

it involves

: a lot of listening and translating, getting people to say what they really mean and feel.

: a lot of praying, there and then and during the in between times

: a lot of reading and learning, reading wide so that we can help people go deep

: regular consistent communication and connection



“When a young person, even a gifted one, grows up without proximate living examples of what she may aspire to become–whether lawyer, scientist, artist, or leader in any realm–her goal remains abstract. Such models as appear in books or on the news, however inspiring or revered, are ultimately too remote to be real, let alone influential. But a role model in the flesh provides more than inspiration; his or her very existence is confirmation of possibilities one may have every reason to doubt, saying, ‘Yes, someone like me can do this.” ― Sonia Sotomayor