“Nothing drives shame away from the heart except being fully known and yet still delighted in. Shame vanishes when you are fully known and delighted in. Both of those are important. The reason I will press hard on confession and openness among the people of God is because the quieter you are about your struggles, the quieter you are about the fantasies of your mind, the quieter you are about where you fall short of the right ideal, the more fertile the ground is for shame to take root. And where shame grows, anger grows. And where anger grows, self-hate and the other forms of abuse can begin to grow. And so the best way to make sure shame doesn’t grow is to be fully known. Don’t have secrets; they betray you.”  — Matt Chandler