How I Recovered From Burn Out: 12 Keys to Getting BackCarey Nieuwhof 

Along the way, these 12 things helped me immensely. And while your story might be different, I offer them in the hope they might help you even in some small way:

1. Tell someone. This was hard. I think it is for most leaders, especially guys. My guess is you will resist because of pride. But pride is probably what made you burn out. Don’t miss this: Only humility will get you out of what pride got you into. Swallow your pride and tell someone safe that you have a problem. It’s tough, but it’s the first step toward wellness. When you admit it to others, you also finally end up admitting to yourself.

2. Get help. You can’t do this alone. Really, you can’t. I went to a trained counsellor and had a circle of friends who walked the walk with me. You need to talk to your doctor and to a trained Christian counsellor. And you need others. I had people pray over me. My wife, Toni, was an incredible and exceptional rock. I’m not sure I would have made it without them. I’m a guy and I prefer to work through my own problems. This one was so much bigger than me. But not bigger than God or the community of love and support he provides. So get help.

3. Lean into your friends.

4. Keep leaning into God.

5. Rest.

6. Find something else to take your attention away from your pain.

7. Do what you can.

8. Don’t do anything drastic or stupid.

9. Trust again.

10. Closely monitor balance.

11. Watch for the warning signs

11. Take full responsibility for the health of your soul.

12. Believe there’s hope.



Relationships: A Harvest MentalityPaul David Tripp

Most of the seeds you plant will be small, but one thousand small seeds that grow up into trees will result in an environment-changing forest. Your relationships are continuously planted with little-moment seeds of words and actions which grow into the forest of either love or trouble.




REACHING OUT IN THE MURKY WATER– Lori Wilhite (Leading and Loving It)

A tug boat capsizes in the midst of heavy Atlantic storm swells. Water rushes in as the boat turns over and sinks to the bottom of the ocean. Harrison Okene, a young cook who was in the bathroom, forces the door open and is swept down the hall into another bathroom. For over 60 hours, Harrison survives in a small air bubble, sipping from a floating bottle of Coca-cola, and keeping his head above the slowly rising water.

He is engulfed by darkness. Shivering in the cold water. Surrounded by the sounds of sea creatures. He is buried alive. He is drowning.

And then, a diver, out to recover the bodies of the deceased crewmen, sees a hand emerge from the murky water and frantically grab hold of his hand. Can you even imagine?! Being grabbed by someone on the ocean floor, 60 hours after the boat sank!

The beautiful thing about ministry is that we have the opportunity to reach our hands into the dark, murky waters of people’s lives and help them.

People are drowning. Buried alive. Gasping for air. And fighting for survival. Every. Day.

One of our staff members lost her husband after a long battle with a failing heart. A wonderful man and incredible life. A wife and son left behind and devastated.

The marriage of our sweet friends is collapsing around them. Drugs. Affairs. Complete brokenness.

And I could go on and on … and so could you. But it is the privilege of the church to reach our hands out into the darkness of people’s lives and say: We won’t leave you … God won’t leave you!





This is a part of our family devotional—a time to gather as a family, read and reflect on God’s Word, and pray and worship together. I told them we would be acting out the story before I read it. This helped them stay engaged as I read. Then we did an impromptu reenactment.

In case you might find it helpful, here’s what we tend to do in our family time:

  • Pray
  • Sing a song or two
  • Read the Bible story
  • Invite all kids to interact with what they heard
  • Act out the story, with me narrating as needed as we go along
  • Take pictures during the reenactment and let the kids look at the photos
  • Sing a song or two
  • Hold hands and pray together for each other





8 Reasons why Joseph was a great LeaderBrad Lomenick

Joseph is one of my favourite personalities in the Old Testament. The story of Joseph in Genesis is one worth reading again and again.

In regards to Joseph, here are some leadership qualities I admire in him:

1. Principled– he had character and integrity. He was honest. He was tempted at multiple times, and he resisted.

2. Humble- the power and prestige of his position working for Pharaoh never changed him.

3. Disciplined– Joseph had the proper long term perspective, even while in jail for a crime he didn’t commit.

4. Faithfulness- while in jail and throughout all of the turmoil, Joseph remained faithful to God and never wavered from his commitment to follow Him.

5. Grace- Joseph showed grace and mercy to his brothers, even though they had sold him into slavery.

6. Competence- he did his job with excellence. Whether as a servant, or the interpreter of Pharaoh’s dream, or as the manager of the family sheep flock.

7. Wise– Joseph was wise beyond his years. He was 30 when he stepped in to help set up Egypt for the famine, and demonstrated a seasoned perspective with decision after decision.

8. Strategic– Joseph was a planner. He instructed the officials to prepare for a famine, even though it was years away, gathering up food to store up, even during the seven years of “plenty.”