This is next level WHO we’re about to get into. (That kind of rhymed.)

Someone has already done what you are trying to do. Someone went before you and fell in some potholes. They know where the road is dangerous, they know where the wins are, they know the way to the finish line.

Find those people and learn from them.

There are no shortcuts to success but relationships come pretty close. Learning what worked (and didn’t) from someone else can be a huge help for you.

Here’s 3 ways to do it:

1.    Read books by people who have done it. Sometimes even something simple like this helps.
2.    Interview your circle of friends. I guarantee at least one person has done something similar.
3.    Post a request for help in our Facebook group. That group is full of amazing hustlers. I promise someone can help you.

This is WHO round 2. (Sometimes I rhyme slow, sometimes I rhyme quick.)

jon acuff


Having big people in our life is essential, i think.

a big person could be a mentor, your parents, your pastor / leader, someone ahead a few pages in life than you.

its someone with a bit of wisdom and credibility that you can bounce ideas off and can help you forge a strategy forward.

someone that has been there, done that, got the tshirt.


my husband and i love mentoring.  we are blessed to mentor a few couples from our housegroup and i regularly “have coffee” with some of the chicks from church to talk about life, vision, God, relationships etc.  its so valuable. 

most of the books i read have some relevance to mentoring or becoming savvy in all areas of life. 

books like:




podcasts like:

  • Jesus Culture Leadership Podcast
  • This is your Life – Michael Hyatt
  • Your Move with Andy Stanley
  • Coffee with Christine Caine


are all examples of books and podcasts  i’ve found i’ve referred to again and again and again in mentoring conversations.


i have a few big people in my own life.  i am BLESSED to have them to encourage me and give advice, to listen to me and to listen to them, people i can learn from.

some are online – like the amazing women in my Leading and Loving It ConnectLIVE group.  they are a source of great inspiration and encouragement, women who are leading, and loving it, who are wives and mothers and awesome women of God.  i learn ALOT from them and their shared life experience and God-gifted wisdom.

some are the leaders in my life, like my pastor.  i love his enthusiasm for God and the church and his confidence to give me a chance to be me.

i have an amazing woman in my real life who i’ve just recently asked out for coffee.  she is older than i am by about 10+ years, has grown up kids and when i look at her there are many things i want in my own life.  she is definitely a few pages ahead in life than i am.  so i intentionally asked her out for coffee.  i asked her if she would be a someone in my life, someone i can talk to and learn from.  someone that will love me and slap me if i need it.


i am also blessed, in the area i’m hustling in for this #30 Days to have a few well skilled people in my life, who are trained and passionate in the area of personal training and nutrition.  they’re great for those off the wall questions about protein and things.  very useful for the likes of me with allergies that cuts out some options in the way that i eat and live.  i have another friend who i can talk to about supplements and energy levels who was incredibly helpful when i went gluten free 2 years ago.


one of the best books i have read motivation wise for creating healthier lifestyle choices is MADE TO CRAVE by Lysa Terkeurst.  our mums group did the book and dvd last year and as mums we’re all in that space of looking after ourselves or at least trying to.  it was invaluable, not only for her teaching, but for the shared tips and experiences of the other mums.  we’re on the same page, supporting and encouraging each other. 



get yourself a big person.

don’t do life alone.

find someone that is where you might want to be, or will challenge and encourage you to get to where you want to go.



Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers. Proverbs 24:6