Leading and Loving It is passionate about providing relevant resources for pastors’ wives and women in ministry and leadership. While many women feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and unprepared, we believe that you can thrive – loving life and ministry. It’s our desire that you would feel confident as you embrace your calling.

Do you struggle to find joy in your ministry role? Do you find yourself discouraged and wonder how you got here? Are you trying to pour into others while running on empty? Whether you are partnering with your husband in his calling or serving in your own leadership role, being a woman in ministry is a huge blessing. But it is also filled with challenges that can threaten to steal the joy found serving in ministry. We get a front-row seat watching God completely transform people’s lives, and then can be so wounded when those same people turn to us and hurl words of criticism. We are surrounded by people, yet locked away in loneliness and isolation. While serving as mentors, counsellors, advisors, and even cheerleaders, we attempt to find balance in our schedules and lives.

This months Leading and Loving ItJustONE conference – was about navigating relationships – in particular friendships.  the sessions were insightful, encouraging, challenging and fun and i love love love the chats with Lori, Brandi, Lisa and Mardia between “main speakers” – i love how real and raw and funny they are!  they show a better way to do life with people, not just through their words but through their lives.  so appreciate them!


below are my notes from the sessions:

Angie smith

i’m not called to be a friend to everyone – to give out of myself to everyone – it takes a toll

God calls us into friendships

let people know the real you

create boundary lines which are healthy for you and your friendships

invested relationships vs surface relationships

real friends see each other realistically, down to earth, respectfully, people who enter the battle with you and see the real you

soul hospitality

relationships take time

We don’t need to be closed, we need to be WISE

the more we work on it the easier it gets

keep the most important thing, the most important thing



Holly Wagner


Qualities to look for in a friend:


1.  acceptance

We need to accept each other and our different personalities! Don’t let the difference separate you!

We need to accept each other and our different giftings! Don’t let the difference separate you!

together we’re stronger!

we need different people with different gifts and flavours in our lives!


2.  loyalty

ecc 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour:  if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?  Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

protect your friends reputation

be loyal and committed in good and bad

celebrate with each other

exclusivity is bad – keep your heart open


3. intimacy

get real, open your heart, get over the fear of being let down or betrayed

requires communication and sharing

"Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives"