so like JSParks practical vision-led blog on dealing with our feelings and about having real freindships with guys and girls… its def an area to walk with wisdom and to be grown up about it. “So please set your boundaries by the ones you already have for friendship, investigate your own heart on what’s comfortable for you, and just relax around the boys and girls. If you feel your heart racing, just thank God you’re alive and you have the privilege of those emotions. It doesn’t mean you have to act on it: you make that choice.”

J.S. Park: Hospital Chaplain, Skeptical Christian

Anonymous asked:

I know there is no straight up answer to this question because everyone has different boundaries and it’s a matter of permissible vs. beneficial. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in the past which have resulted in a lot of hurt and drama. What are some healthy guidelines for emotional boundaries in opposite gender friendships? How can I pursue a healthy, deep and ‘intimate’ friendship while guarding my heart (and the other person’s) without being legalistic? Or can guys and girls not be close friends?


Here’s the short, simple answer on this one:

While everyone thinks they can beat the odds and be the exception, almost no one can escape romantic feelings if they have a super-intimate relationship with the opposite gender.

The important thing here is what you choose to do with those feelings.

Now please hear me: You have a right to feel what…

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